I know, I know, life coaches can seem like a crock. And I’m sure some of them are. But after a ridiculously late Friday night at the office with a colleague who claimed his life coach changed his life, I decided that maybe something new and slightly out of my comfort zone might be just what I needed.
It’s not about someone preaching to you and telling you what to do. It’s about someone totally unbiased asking you the right questions to help you figure out what makes you happy.
Am I there yet? Not quite. But I feel like I’m making progress.
One of the things I’m working on is learning how to just be.
I’m an extreme planner. Every moment of my life is mapped out to maximize my productivity – both in and out of the office. If I’m being totally honest, the only time I don’t have a to-do list for myself is when I’m hungover. (Then, the to-do list is all: brunch).
This was one of the first things my coach pointed out to me, and I never realized it was an issue before – it was always something I was proud of. But I do think there’s something to be said for being able to truly relax and enjoy doing nothing.
I feel like this is especially hard for those of us with super busy day jobs, because we work so much during the week that we need the weekend to catch up – whether it be grocery shopping, the gym, cleaning the house or hanging with friends. And while all of those things can make you feel good, there is still something different about just being content with your own company.
So I was challenged – my homework was to spend a Saturday without a plan. I woke up, made coffee and kept my mouth shut – letting Dan call the shots. We ended up going to brunch and then just spending the day lounging (and we weren’t even hungover!) I have to say, it was really nice.
Finding your own happiness is a super personal thing, but for me, thinking how to just be content without a plan is definitely a good step in the process!