These last two years have been nothing short of awesome. He’s the guy I test my English accent with at a restaurant, and the one that still gives me a piggyback ride home because I wore those shoes (again.) He doesn’t get intimidated being the only guy in our girls hangouts. He slow claps me when I come home from the office after 9 p.m. and isn’t embarassed when I publicly max out on nachos. He challenges me when I’m wrong, and supports me when I need it.
But that doesn’t mean it’s all been gravy. Yes, there have been disagreements. And I’ve totally had weeks where I’ve secretly wished I lived alone (I MEAN PUT THE TOILET SEAT DOWN ALREADY.) But eventually you realize not everything is worth fighting over. And no matter what happens between us during the day, there’s no one I’d rather have by my side.
I know not all marriages are like this. Because it isn’t marriage that’s so great. It’s who you marry, and what you share.
Getting married is not a bandaid for a rollercoaster relationship, or a natural life progression for a seven year partnership. Because let’s be real – it’s only going to get harder with kids, mortgages and in-laws. (Though I have to say mine are fabulous.)
Marriage is a decision you make solely because you believe in something you have with another human – you believe it can last, you know you can love this person for the rest of your life, and you walk through life together, side by side.
It’s special because, even though everyone might know you love each other and are in it for the long haul, there’s something different about standing in front of everyone you know and saying this is it. This is my person.
Our wedding was beautiful, and I wouldn’t change a thing. We were young, yes. But we knew. And I think it was really special for our friends – none of which were yet married or even thinking about getting married – to see that we weren’t afraid of that commitment. We fearlessly said “I do!” and have been adventuring through life together ever since.
And some day, when we’re fighting about important things and I feel totally distant (because let’s be real – that’s life!), I’ll look back on this post and remember what it’s all about.